Wednesday, August 9, 2017

Stress Relief Tip: Create Your Future

Create your future

There are few things more stressful than uncertainty. At least one other thing is a lack of control over one's own life. These things disrupt our mental homeostasis, increasing that off-balance feeling. Our body's main physiological goal is to stay balanced in that place where everything feels right. When we are out of balance we will find ways to cope with those feelings and regain that level of equilibrium that our nature desires. The idea is to cope with the imbalance via healthy activities that help instead of resort to things like drug, alcohol, or destructive behaviors.

Taking control of your destiny before things get out of control is one way to help. This is not to say that every aspect in one's life is in order or the way you would like it to be. Instead, it is about taking control of your life back. You can do this by taking a step back and looking at things in your life objectively. Take the time to assess and decide which aspects of your life you would like to change. Accept that the identified areas are not where you would like them to be and decide to change them.

This process of self-reflection alone can bring a level of calmness because now in your mind you are working towards a solution. Once you start researching and learning what it takes to change things, you can move into goal setting and eventually creating a plan of action that includes small measurable steps that contribute to your sense of accomplishment. This is not where we allow ourselves to get overwhelmed with the glorious prospect of the future. Instead focus on the present and what you have to do. This is taking control in the creation of your future. This small step can lead to stress relief because you are deciding to be the master of your own destiny instead of simply reacting to situations that get thrown your way.

Tuesday, August 8, 2017

Stressless Tip: Engage your gift

Happy Feet
Some days
I'm not walking
in or towards purpose
with love and peace, I'm just happy
to walk

I am big on walking in your purpose or at least working your way towards it. We all have special talents and gifts that once we unlock and realize what they are, we can flourish. Actively engaging and practicing our gifts is like tapping into an infinite well of energy which can lead us to joy and peace. This space is where we can thrive. Even if we are not making a living at it, at the very least we can enjoy the benefits of exercising our gifts and benefiting from  the stress relief it can bring to our lives.

Tuesday, July 11, 2017

Spider-Man Homecoming Review

My latest  podcast focuses on you and having a vision for yourself and going for it. Also includes a quick review of the newest Spider-Man installment from Marvel, Spider-Man: Homecoming. It enjoyed it and go see it :).

Please feel free to share if you enjoyed or found any part of it helpful.

Thursday, July 6, 2017

A Pencil and a Dream

A #2 pencil and a dream can take you anywhere. -Joyce Meyer

I have a few post on the importance of having dreams and goals to our well being and stress levels. This is where we can generate purpose for ourselves and give meaning to our lives in which we can gain a sense of accomplishment. Dreaming and imagining a better life is just what is needed sometimes.

I picture life without the exercise of the imagination as a dull and boring place. Dreaming of possibilities is the ultimate use of our ability to create. Dipping into our imagination for a moment helps to take us away from the daily things of life that may stress us out. Linking your dream to an actionable goal would be even better.

I completely appreciate the quote because it goes beyond just dreaming up some crazy far away thing that we will never attain. I appreciate it not only because I am a writer and I can transport myself anywhere with my thoughts and #2 pencil or word processor or computer but also because putting dreams down on paper make it real. In creative writing you create a place, situation to share with others. In business making a plan and setting goals will help us move the dream from the fictional land of our minds to making it a reality. When you write it down, you make it real.

Naturally, writing it down in not enough because you have to commit to yourself and your dream. You have to commit to taking action steps. You have to commit to making it happen. Do not overwhelm yourself. Start small. But start. Start dreaming, start imagining, start writing. Start.

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Wednesday, June 28, 2017

Fifth Harmony is Down

Fifth Harmony's holding you Down. I have loved this group ever since X-Factor days. I was sorry to see them go down to four instead of five but I am loving this new single nevertheless.

False Liberty

False Liberty
Feels fleeting and
fake when the demands of
society squeeze you into
a box

Tuesday, June 13, 2017

Stress Less Tip: Put Yourself in Time Out

Stress Less Tip 3: Put yourself in Time Out
Time Out
lately has moved
into your life, parked there
fight, stop and take a breath for a
-Wanda M. Toby
Give yourself a time out. That's right. If you are a parent, you may be used to giving your child a time out and it has some negative emotions attached to it. Let us flip it. Give yourself a time out. We give children time out usually during a chaotic time. Maybe they just got busted in the act of doing something naughty. Whatever the cause or the reason, timeout usually comes after something out of the ordinary happens. You may not have done anything naughty but your life might be a little hectic. Maybe you have just gotten home from work and need to fix dinner or do homework with the kids or need to run to the next event and you feel pressed for time. Your blood pressure is most likely climbing up and you do not even notice. Stop.

Stop and find a spot and pause. It does not even matter if it is quiet as long as you still your mind. Give yourself some time, start with 1-5 minutes. Close your eyes and take a few deep breath, inhale, exhale. Think about the ones you love, what they do to make you smile. Tell yourself you are awesome and you can do this. Think about how fortunate you are to be able to be. Take one to five minutes, then get up, shake it off, and get a move on. That little activity can help to balance you out and allow you to take your next step with new purpose and maybe a little bit more mental energy.

Thursday, June 1, 2017

Kelly Rowland Playing Dumb with Trevor Jackson

Get your dance on with Kelly Rowland in her fun video, Dumb. I love the song, love the video, love the dancing. I play it in the morning when I want to get the blood flowing with a quick three minute heart pumping dance.

She also has a wonderfully infectious smile that will do well to brighten your day. Smile and dance along. Get your natural morning high going. Get dumb :).

Tuesday, March 28, 2017

Movie Review: Life 2017

Life starring Jake Gyllenhall, Rebecca Ferguson, Ariyon Bakare and Ryan Reynolds is a scientific thriller with an Alien that basically could give two flying figs about any life form other than itself. Six astronauts are aboard a space craft making the important discovery of alien life. It is a nice diverse group of people all holding hands, singing, “kumbaya, we are about to change to world.” All is going well until it turns bad really fast.

Ryan Reynolds plays, Rory, the same character he always plays in almost all of his movies. That is really all I kept on thinking about as I watched him. That and he is the cute white boy with all the snarky jokes. Ariyon Bakare plays Hugh, the scientist who seems to have bonded with the life form (named Calvin) early on as he is the researcher bringing it to life and caring for it. So much more I would like to say and ask but don't want to spoil it. Jake Gyllenhall plays the reclusive (so much so he has decided to practically live in space) David, who could care less about getting back to earth because we earthlings suck. Rebecca Ferguson plays Miranda, who's responsible for containment. Clearly, the savage alien was not contained or we would not have a movie.

This film is an adrenaline pumping thrill ride. I watched it with my daughter and was a little concerned about some of the potential R-rated content at first but there was nothing that I felt, I had to cover up her 11-year-old eyes for. Life had a nice build up, a good dose of suspense and one bad ass alien.

Definitely worth the watch. Is is predictable? Well, yes. If you are a scifi lover than, you won't be surprised. Nevertheless, it is a fun watch. If you have heart conditions though, you might want to take a pass.

Moral of the story? Sometimes ignorance is bliss. Ultimately, life will find a way and won't give up. If you want to accomplish something and start to feel discouraged, think about life, our existence. Think about the miracles of creating a baby. Think about the cell. Life is in you. You are life. Be like Calvin minus the brutal, unfeeling, I will kill anything around me to survive mentality.  

Friday, March 3, 2017

Stress Less Tip 2: Get a Plant

Stress less with the help of nature, more specifically a plant in either your work space or home space.
There have been ongoing research on the overall effect of nature and being in nature on mood and stress levels. There has also been some studies that have looked into the positive effect of plants on stress indicators. Several studies have show plants to have a positive effect on productivity, blood pressure, perception of space, and anxiety to name a few. There can be several contributing factors to this like if you are the one caring for the plant, perceived attractiveness of the room or  improved air quality and etc. Nevertheless, having a plant in can prove to be beneficial.

Now if you do not have a green thumb like myself, get a plant that is easy to manage and hard to kill. No reason to stress out over caring for the thing that is supposed to help with your stress relief in the first place. Take ownership of this little effort to make life better and contribute to the environment at the same time, no matter how small. Feeling blue talk positively to your plant as you care for it.

Stress Less Tip 1: Be Mindful

Reference Articles
Plants Make You Feel Better
Stress-reducing effects of indoor plants in the built healthcare environment: the mediating role of perceived attractiveness.