Tuesday, August 7, 2018

Life is the Storm

Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass ... It's about learning to dance in the rain. - Vivian Greene
If we wait for the storm to pass, we will be doing a whole lot of waiting. Sometimes, it seems as though we are moving from storm to storm and there is hardly ever a perfect moment. If lives were perfect we would live in a utopia with nothimg to ever worry about, however the reality is that we live in an imprefect world. We are complex beings and do not always make the best choices as a people.

Life has good and bad consequences to every decision or indecision. To get through it we have to be ready for the difficult times. We have to be ready to weather them, work through them, and or actively work to get out of them. With every step and every action we also have to remeber to live, to capture and enjoy the beautiful moments and take advantage of the blessing placed in our lives in order to make it all worth it and appreciate it. We are not waiting for a storm or going through a storm. Life is the storm, so get your dance on.

Tuesday, July 31, 2018

Multitasking is Not Real

When walking walk. When eating eat. – Zen Proverb

Multi-tasking is a great skill to have. We see articles and suggestions about the best way to multi-task all over. However, new research is suggesting that maybe multitasking is not such a great thing after all. In recent years articles published on NPR and various business magazines as well as health website tell a different story about multitasking on the health, brain and productivity. Multitasking is not all it is cracked up to be and it can show in your work and overall wellbeing.

I find when I am multitasking that I feel rushed. I do not feel that I am giving it my best. Imagine when you are having a conversation with someone and something on the television catches your attention. What happens to the person that was speaking? Whatever they are saying tends to fade away, doesn’t it? All of a sudden, few seconds later, you have to ask them to repeat themselves or pretend like you were paying attention to every word they spoke. That is multitasking and it is not fair is it.

I learned the detriments of multitasking as a nurse working in the ER. If there is any place that multitasking is largely used, it is definitely the ED. When working there you are listening to alarm bells, call lights, paying attention to doctors’ orders, listening for the ambulance, and taking care of anywhere from one to five patients, depending on the acuity. It can be a circus. However, when you are in a patient’s room, she is your focus 100% of the time. Nothing makes a person feel neglected like rushing them or ignoring them or even telling them that someone is coding in the other room. Whether you are with them for 5 seconds or 30 minutes, they are your priority and focus and they need to feel it.

Multitasking is not real. It is an illusion that we build around ourselves to feel more productive. We are doing it at a cost. You may have a number of tasks to complete and prioritize but in reality you are completing them one task at a time. The more we focus on devoting our time to that one thing in order to get it done right, the more we will actually feeling accomplished and satisfied.

I definitely would rather sit down and taking my time to enjoy my meal instead of rushing it because I am on the go. Heck, I may trip and fall and be left with an even bigger mess. Let us get focused.

Thursday, June 28, 2018

Friends Can Help Alleviate Stress

Stress is a sneaky little bugger. It can start off as a great motivator but left unchecked and unmanaged it can lead to chronic stress that we may not even be aware of. We end up reacting to the consequence such as increased health problems, shorter tolerance and even trouble with relationships.
It is important that we manage stress and are aware of it's affect at all levels. When we have an awareness we can then work on improving situations in our life that will help to relieve stress. Good friends are just one of the things that can help combat the negative impact of stress on one's life. Web MD and other research sources site multiple benefits to a good friendships. Friends can be great motivators for healthy behavior. Positive and happy friends are infectious. Fellowship with friends help fight off depression. Keep in mind thought this is not about toxic people. Toxic "friends" can drain you and add even more stress.

Be mindful of the people in your circle. Be thankful and appreciative of the good friends that you have. Spend quality time with them, laugh with them, and do not forget to activate them when needed. We do not have to face difficulties alone. Family and friends want to share in your healing. Allow them.

Monday, June 18, 2018

Five Things I Learned from my Social Media Break

Most recently, I found that I was spending a little too much time on social media as if they were life links. Although they may seem like the keys to life they should not be the most significant aspects on my tree of life.

I took a few weeks off from my most used social media platforms, Twitter, Facebook and Instagram. Not a fake break, when we say we are taking a break but sneak back on a little less and never really did leave. I took a real break, deleting the apps off my phone and logging out from the internet for a solid two weeks. I was off for a third but I cheated a bit by logging back on line. I ultimately am planning my full return because I was no more productive in life than I was prior to taking this break. I have downloaded Twitter back on my phone. I will later do Instagram and I am not really rushing to get the Facebook app back although I have logged on over the internet.

While off, I found it so easy to engage in other ways to fill up the now free social media time that I had. Mostly, I binged watched television shows that I had fell behind on or had some interest in. So here are the 5 things that I learned from leaving and coming back:

  • Productivity comes from within. As mentioned, I was no more productive in life within my two week hiatus. Just because I had lost access to my self-made distractions, did not mean that I would not find another way to excel at procrastination and lack of motivation. At the end of the day, we are still the masters of our fate and control our actions and choice of engagement. We have to internally make the decision to be better, do more, get off our butts and move. 
  • I missed it but I didn't really miss it. I missed the people that made me laugh and smile and think. After a while, I was on cruise control. It was okay.
  • It is easier for me to bury my head in the sand. I get most of my news a current affairs from social media because I do not watch news. I did not mind missing out. I did not mind being away from all the negative crap. The state of affairs saddens me. However, it should drive us to be the catalyst for change. 
  • It is a lot of work. Being back for only a couple of days, I realize that it is actually a lot of work. Reading through the post, commenting, wishing people happy birthday, and responding to people is not only time consuming but takes energy. Do I really have time for all this? How did I manage to get as involved as I was before? Clearly, I have an issue with self control.
  • Lastly, it is about balance. Life is about balance. How we handle social media should be no different. Not only should I balance how much I am on there but what content I have access to as well. I am going to work on being more of a voyeurer and comment every now and then. I am going to balance my content with things that make me happy and the news (because right not hardly anything is positive in the news) and I am going to balance my time.
Bonus. It takes away from self care. Many people have a high level of stress in their lives that sometimes being on social media can make worse depending on what we expose ourselves to. The most important thing about my social media break was that I was able to have more time for myself, to myself. Time to do the things that I not only enjoy but elevate my mood, release stress and help me relax: quiet time, relaxing time, music time, reading time and me time. Even if we are not more productive, taking time for ourselves is more important. We can gain perspective and clarity and all else refresh. 

Wednesday, May 9, 2018

Goodness Never Fails

Goodness is the only investment that never fails.
-Henry David Thoreau

Monday, May 7, 2018

Be Kind

Affirmation: I  am surrounded by love and kindness .I have enough to share.

Thursday, April 19, 2018

Laughter Heals

Keep smiling. Keep laughing. Bring healing to your soul.

Always laugh when you can. It is cheap medicine. - Lord Byron

Monday, February 5, 2018

Cloverfield Paradox

Netflix pulled a Beyonce last night and without any promotions, prior marketing or fanfare dropped a movie. The latest installment of JJ Abram's Cloverfield franchise, Cloverfield Paradox.
This latest science fiction foray into JJ Abrams' twisted world stars Gugu Mbatha-Raw as Ava Hamilton, David Oyelowo as Kiel, Daniel Brühl as Schmidt, John Ortiz as Monk Acosta, Chris O'Dowd as Mundy, Zhang Ziyi as Tam, and Elizabeth Debicki as Mina Jensen.

Do you have to watch the previous two installments to understand Cloverfield Paradox? No, not really. However, I definitely recommend you watch the first one. The second one was really a look into human behavior and resilience but it is not at all necessary to watch. Instead focus on watching Cloverfield; it will be more impactful to know what was going happening on the planet while the space crew was dealing with their issues. It definitely adds more to the intrigue, mystery, and suspense of it all.

Things I loved:

  • Just about everything. 
  • The diverse group of actors were phenomenal in their portrayals. There was simplicity, yet raw emotion that was brought out by the complexity of the situation. 
  • I loved the fact that the lead was a strong woman of color with a nuclear family intact and supportive. One time for Black love. The last time I remember a Black female lead in a science fiction move was Sanaa Latham in one of the Alien vs Predator installments. She made it till the end :) lol. 
  • The intensity of the story. Like I said, heightened because I watched the first Cloverfield. 
  • The special effects ... I can go on. 

The things I did not like:
I am glad to say that I enjoyed every bit of it. Like true Abrams fashion, there were more questions but it did come full circle. I understand now how the "aliens" got to earth.

I am biased because I have been a fan of the Cloverfield franchise for the past 10 years. I am pleasantly suprised by this latest one because I was not crazy about 10 Cloverfield Lane, so Cloverfield Paradox is definitely a treat. With that being said, it gets a solid A from me.

Friday, February 2, 2018

Jumanji with Kevin Hart and Dwayne Johnson

Jumanji starring Dwayne Johnson, Kevin Hart and Jack Black has been out for over a month and has so far grossed over 750 million dollars. 

I enjoyed Kevin Hart and Jack Black the most. Dwayne Johnson was good in his character but not really a stand out. I enjoyed the story line and that the characters had some depth to them which without it would have made the movie less interesting. Spencer, played by the Rock was the best written character. He showed the most growth while not being obnoxious and staying true to the essence of himself. Fortunately, I do not have anything bad to say about the film except that my niece was not a fan because she found it to be a little too hokey. 

The film seemed to have just the right amount of comic relief and intent mixed with just the right amount of action and explanation that did not leave me wanting to make a bathroom run. I liked how they tied it into the original Jumanji as well. This was just a fun time. The action sequences where well done, the cinematography wad nicely put together as well. I definitely think the villain might have been a little too hokey but overall Jumanji was fun. 

Lesson Learned: It's okay to grow and challenge yourself but also remember to stay true to who you are.

Jumanji: B go watch with the kids.

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Wednesday, January 31, 2018

Poetry: Yearn

to touch you when 
you are not there causes 
this yearning pain and yet I reach 
out still 
- Wanda M. Toby