Saturday, December 1, 2018

Stress Less Tip 9: Get Creative

Happiness lies in the joy of achievement and the thrill of creative effort. -Franklin D. Roosevelt

Want to feel alive? Tap into your creative energy. Want to decrease your stress levels? Get lost in doing something that taps into your creative energy. We all have the capacity to be creative and harness the healing energy that it provides. The creative skills we had as children did not disappear. We still have them; the problem is that we may be out of practice. As we have grown into our adulthood, we carve out less time for play because we have responsibilities. This is why, for some of us, our creative energy has died down some. The good news is that we can revive it.

Spend some time thinking about the things you love to do, the things that bring you joy. Spend some time thinking about the ways you like to use your hands. Is it cooking, drawing, helping others? Do you enjoy reading, writing, singing, dancing, playing around with your kids, or even walking and taking in the natural sights around you?  Personally, I love to read and write and learn new things. I can get lost in doing any of those. Even though I know this about myself, I still sometimes get lost in the daily "rat race" that I forget to engage myself. It takes being mindful of our needs.

Take some time with yourself. Start with five minutes and get to know yourself, then take action. Get creative!

Tuesday, November 27, 2018

I am Jubilant

I am jubilant. 
: feeling or expressing great happiness and triumph.
♡ ♡ ♡ ♡ ♡ ♡ ♡
#positiveaffirmations #affirmations #overjoyed #exultant #triumphant #joyful #rejoicing #exuberant #elated #wellbeing #selfreflection #selfesteem

Affirmations  are so cliché, but clichés exist for a reason. They are a constant needed reminder in our lives. Too often, we forget how magnificent of a creation we are because we get boggled down with life. That can lead us not to appreciate the regular moments. Moments in which we are not in strife. I am grateful for those simple moments. In those simple moments, I claim jubilance. I am jubilant.

Wednesday, November 21, 2018

The Meg

The Meg starring Jason Statham, Rainn Wilson, Li Bingbing, Ruby Rose, and Page Kennedy is now available for purchase and digital download. It did not enjoy rave critical reviews but I enjoyed it. Statham is not showing off his fighting skills in this one but he still gets to help save the day.

Statham's character, Jonas Taylor, is a washed-up rescue diver who is recruited to rescue his wife from beyond the deep blue sea. This creates the initial tension and conflict of having him back before moving on to the real problem- the megladon. This movie had just the right amount of comic relief and actions. Conversely, I can see why it got such bad reviews. It can be a little hokey at times but I enjoyed it. Rainn's character was fun and everyone else came together in a weird comfortable way. The pacing was right for the suspenseful elements and for the most part the graphics were on point.

Tuesday, November 20, 2018

Stress Less Tip 8: Do Not Get Comfortable

you deceive me
relishing in my lull
Capitated, I do not move

Comfort is something we all seek in our lives. Honestly, who wants to be uncomfortable? I sure do not. Unfortunately, comfort can be the worst thing for us sometimes. Our body requires a delicate balance to maintain our daily living. Healthwise if anything is out of whack too much for too long, we will find ourselves falling ill. Consequently, we may physically interpret comfort as maintaining equilibrium. However, even in our comfort, we can physically throw parts of ourselves out of whack.
Maintaining balance or equilibrium is not a static thing. I like to think of it as a quest in which we are always moving towards a goal, making adjustments, jumping through hoops. Think of our goal towards equilibrium like the game Temple Run (I know, I am taking it back). This is what is constantly going on in our bodies. Reaction after reaction to keep us moving forward.
Comfort is the opposite of that. Comfort fools us and the difficult thing about it is there is some part of our brain that relishes in it and convinces us we need more of it because it is like a safe place. Let’s just look at this from a personal, physical perspective. I am most comfortable when I am lying in bed, under my covers after fidgeting for a few minutes to find just the right spot; or when I am sitting on the couch in front of my television for hours, watching my shows. That is the ultimate comfort for me. If I did that daily for hours and hours on end, parts of my body would rebel. My muscles would shrink, I would gain weight, and other negative sides of living an overly sedentary life still would lead me right on down to the illness path. That is not moving forward.

In other ways, comfort is like that. We need a little of bit of stress to run through so that we can be propelled to the next level of our lives. Remember the saying about “growing pains,” well life has growing pains. Life is about growing pains.  As much as we love to be comfortable do not get fooled into a static living. Stress is not the enemy when it is managed. Stress is a part of our life. Stress is the log to jump over or slide under. Stress is the bulldozer that you have to successfully dodge to keep going away. Comfort as great as it is will have you stuck in the same place, wondering what did I do with my life. Think of your life as a seesaw with stress on one end and comfort on the other and you in the middle- balance it out. 

Sunday, November 18, 2018

Stress Less Tip 7: Work Through the Stress with Music

I, like I imagine a lot of other people do, use music to help me through all types of situations in life. Music is just one artistic avenue that we can use to help us heal an cope with life's up and downs.

This song Lovely by Billie Eilish ft. Khalid is one of those songs that resonates with my spirit. First of all the melody lulls me into a very peaceful and comfortable place. The lyrics, on the other hand, are anything but. For me, they tell of a struggle, a fight in which the person is not letting herself lose. No matter how tough it may be or how long it takes, she is not giving up.

From one perspective it can seem depressing but I choose to see where she still believes in herself enough not to give up. And that she also has an understanding that this is just a moment that she will get through. However, there a times when we have to go through it. I honestly do not know what is meant by "welcome home" but I interpret it as life has its ups and downs and when we are down we have to work through it in order to be reborn into something better.

"But I know someday I'll make it out of here
Even if it takes all night or a hundred years
Need a place to hide, but I can't find one near
Wanna feel alive, outside I can fight my fear

Isn't it lovely, all alone?
Heart made of glass, my mind of stone
Tear me to pieces, skin and bone
Hello, welcome home"

I posted the lyric video instead of the actual one because we can interpret it as we feel for ourselves and assign greater meaning as we see fit. Enjoy. It is a lovely 😀 song with powerful lyrics.

Look Within to Gain Balance

Look within. Within is the fountain of good, and it will ever bubble up, if thou wilt ever dig. -Marcus Aurelius

I have to remind myself to stop and look within. I discuss meditation and mindfulness living quite a bit because they are easy to miss. I can easily get caught up in the daily activities of life and go without self-reflection. Sometimes we get caught up in doing or going or moving that we miss the moments necessary to regain balance. Take a minute or two or five to stop and look within yourself, even if it is just to study your breath and feel the energy of your being flow through you. Sometimes that is all we may need.

Thursday, November 15, 2018

We're Made for Now

"If you're livin' for the moment
Don't stop, try to celebrate the feelin'" - Janet Jackson
Better yet, try to remember that feeling so you can bring it up the next time life is stressing you out. I find that I stress most is when I spend time worrying about the future. I plan out things in my mind that has not even happened yet, then stress about the possibility of those things happening and spend hours thinking about what I am going to do if they actually things happen. It sounds crazy, doesn't it?

It has become so cliche to say live in the moment because we hear it so much. Maybe we keep hearing it because we do not take heed to this advice. If we realized how silly it is to worry ourselves over what may happen, we could focus on the now. Focus on the things we can actually have an effect on like how we are feeling right now.

Sometimes all we have to do is stop our brains for making up scenarios to worry about and be thankful for the things we have in our lives that are good.

We really are made for now. I love this music video because it is fun and showcases a little bit of Janet's dancing skills. It is like she tried to capture the magic of "All Night" which cannot be done but it was a nice, enjoyable effort.

Monday, November 5, 2018

Mariah Carey is Going the Distance

What is up Mariah? I recently posted about her other release, GTFO, and how much I enjoyed it. Now, she drops The Distance which I am also feeling.

They are both very nostalgic, reminding me of some of her older music. The Distance has a smooth beat and her voice is silky. She does not really need to try and do any crazy vocal gymnastics. It a nice mellow melody that reminds us not to give up on the one you love no matter what negativity may come your way. That is definitely the way to be, especially if you know that both parties are engaging genuinely in the relationship.

Tuesday, October 30, 2018

Five Life Hacks from Shonda Rhimes Year of Yes

I finally read- no, I finally listened to Shonda Rhimes book Year of Yes. I am aware that I am three years late but I have a life that I am trying to keep from falling apart and apparently so did she.

As a writer, I look at Shonda with doe-eyes, drooling at her greatness and how perfect her life must be. Why wouldn’t I? She is everything. Her shows are everything. I have not missed one season of Grey’s Anatomy and I watched all of Scandal, and I happen to know How to Get Away with Murder is still keeping people talking. Oh and Private Practice was my show for a while. She is living a writers dream and I was drooling.
You can never be sure what you are looking at when you are peering at someone’s life from the outside. You see what they want you to see. Shonda’s book epitomizes that. I am sure I was not the only one that thought she was on top of the world. In reality, she was holding life together with food and work and distractions like the rest of us. She is warm and inviting in her constant self-deprecation, so much so that she is adorably relatable.  There are so many golden nuggets that I took away from this book.

  1. Self-confidence in one area does not take care of a person’s overall self-esteem. It doesn’t matter how good you are at this one thing, you must feel good about all of you. You have to feel good about the whole being that makes up your life. If you do not then the accomplishments and accolades mean nothing because you are not complete. 
  2. You should not only have people around who truly care for your success and wellbeing but also those who will push you outside of your comfort zone. We do not excel feeling 100% comfortable. We must be challenged and nudged to the next level. 
  3. We have to acknowledge our issues. Self-reflection is important, but you have to be willing to dig deeper and explore areas that you may not have even realized were blocking you in your life. You cannot change what you do not know about and you will not find out things about yourself, if you don’t spend some time with yourself, reflecting, exploring and pruning your soul. 
  4. Know that it is okay to be good at what you do and you do not have to be shy about it. 
  5. You have to do different things. Change up your routine. Do not fall into the same old routine. Change it up even in a small way.

Wednesday, October 24, 2018

Stress is a Curse?

Stress is a Curse?

“To achieve great things, two things are needed: a plan and not quite enough time.” ― Leonard Bernstein

I read an article and the opening line was describing how stress is the curse of the 21st century. Really? If stress is a curse then so is living. Stress is unavoidable. Stress is a part of life; it is a necessary part of life. Stress is many things but a curse is not one of them. Stress is a driving force to get us from one state to the next. Stress is the reaction we have to stimulants in our lives. Think of it as generating the fuel we need to get through whatever situation we are dealing with. 

The message that I want to convey is that we must use our stress energy. We must be mindful of what is going on in our lives and address it in a constructive, forward motion manner. If we use the energy, transform the energy then we have taken control of our stress levels and not allowed it to control us. What we want to avoid is allowing our stress to become chronic and in turn negatively affecting our immune system.