Thursday, September 12, 2019

Otherhood with Angela Bassett

Otherhood with Angela Bassett led me to Further by Correatown and I am fairly certain that I am not the only one. I'm so mad at myself that I did not know about this song eight years ago when it first came out. I probably was not in the appropriate place to receive it but I receive it now.

Otherhood is a Netflix movie starring Angela Bassett, Felicity Huffman (currently is a bit of drama for some really poor privileged choices, but I digress)  and Patricia Arquette as mothers who are being ignored by their adult sons. They decide to do a surprise visit on their kids and the fun ensues.

It is a cute movie. Maybe I related to it a bit because I anticipate that will be my case with my son. He does a really good job of ignoring me now except when he needs something of course. I am hoping the teenager boy bug will fade away as he grows into adulthood. Unfortunately, for Carol (Angela Bassett), Helen (Felicity Huffman), and Gillian (Patricia Arquette) their son's were waste deep in the ignore money phase.

It is definitely a Netflix watch. There are some cute/funny moments. Ultimately, the message is to discover yourself before it's too late. Sometimes us moms get really absorbed and involved in our children's lives and then when they are on their own we are left wondering what to do with ourselves. I cannot continue to stress self-care enough. We have to be sure we carve out a little time for our own interest.

Otherhood is a solid C movie ... I know even with Angela Bassett.

But that song! I must have listened to is 100 times or more by now. Something about the melody just makes me feel good and the lyrics really do hit home. It reminds me to take care of myself and my emotions which is why, in my opinion, it went well with the movie. It reminds me to not only take care of myself but to check my emotions, take a look at where I am investing them. I do have so much love that I am ready and willing to give but I also need it back. It reminds me to pay attention to where I am directing my energy and check myself if need be. It also just makes me smile at the same time. What a wonderful combination. That is a lot of therapy in one song.

We go further.

Check out the trailer and watch it on Netflix if you are looking for something light to pass the time. I do love a happy ending.

Lizzo I love you Concert Tour

Lizzo I love you Concert Tour

I had the wonderful privilege of attending Lizzo’s “I Love you” concert and it was absolutely freaking phenomenal. I love you is 1000% the best name for the tour. She is unapologetically raw. She radiates self-confidence and self-love. Whether or not it is a front, does not even matter to me. I say this because ultimately, we never know what a person is going through when the lights go out and the mind starts churning. Artists are especially hard on themselves and oftentimes suffer from self-doubt because they are critical of not only their craft but also their ability. I imagine this is what allows them to strive for perfection. 

Regardless of what is going on inside that creative mind of hers, I love how Lizzo gives the most positive, radiant self-love vibe. She sang her heart out and left her lungs on that stage. Her energy and that of her dancers was off the chart. I was exhausted and my voice was hoarse afterward. I came home and fell out. If you want some self-love therapy, find yourself at a Lizzo concert. If you cannot do that then throw her album on and rock out. Let her words penetrate your mind and your soul because if anything else you deserve to love yourself and allow yourself to enjoy precious moments in life.

Get on a Lizzo frequency.

Lizzo’s “I Love You” concert tour gets a solid A from me because I enjoyed myself so much and just forgot about all of my issues for that hour and a half. Oh and I also enjoyed her opening act, Ari Lennox. Both ladies sang with beautiful and powerful voices. 

Here are some of my pics. I already know they aren't the best pictures lol but I was there dagnabit!



Sunday, September 8, 2019

47 Meters Down: Uncaged Review

47 Meters Down Uncaged
Four teenage divers discover that the sunken ruins of a Mayan city are also a hunting ground for deadly great white sharks. With their air supply steadily dwindling, the frightened girls must navigate the underwater labyrinth of claustrophobic caves and eerie tunnels in search of a way out of their watery hell.

47 Meters Down: Uncaged stars Sophie NĂ©lisse, John Corbett and a cameo from Nia Long who still looks absolutely fabulous. Basically, four silly girls find themselves stuck in an underwater Mayan city but they are not alone. Great white angry sharks are tearing the underwater archeological site apart and some human limbs too.

The thing about this movie is that it’s annoying in the girls’ foolishness. So just expect to be annoyed at the poor decisions they make that are necessary plot points to move the story along. After I got over that, I actually enjoyed this movie. It is a thriller and there were some scare worthy moments when the sharks, who have no cares to give, attack.

Spoilers ahead.

Mia played by Sophie NĂ©lisse is supposed to be the underdog that we feel story about but ends up being a badass.

John Corbett plays the archeologist dad. I like him in almost everything he does, so I was rooting for him not to die but …

Nia Long plays the mom and she gets an honorable mention because … well, she fine.

Nicole played by Sistine Stallone gets just what she deserves. I don’t remotely feel bad for her appropriate demise.

Sasha played by Jamie Foxx’s daughter, Corinne Foxx, turns out to be pretty badass herself. She did a good job with the acting too.

I give it a solid C+ because there were some unexpected moments with man versus nature that I appreciated and did not expect.

Moral of the story: Don’t stop fighting until your very last breath and even then go for the reserves and keep fighting. Also do not treat your family like crap, at the end of the day they are sometimes all you’ve got.

Saturday, June 15, 2019

Be the Best

First thing in the mornin' when I wake up
Thank God for life
Look in the mirror
Say, "Bitch I'm the best, best, best, best, best, best, best …

Your attitude needs to rise up with the sun! “I am the best!” This is what you need to say to yourself when you wake up every morning! If you are not, change your mind frame and get with it. Play “Blessed” by Shenseea featuring Tyga and get your mind right. The best way to deal with the stressors of the day is to have to right attitude, and that starts with how you feel about yourself. That is why my morning mood is self-elevating even when I am not feeling it. If you do not feel like you are worthy and are the best, no one else is going to do it for you. We have so much coming at us throughout the day that we have to wake up with the right mindset to swerve the negativity.

It is not about being cocky or conceited at all as some might think. It is about preparing yourself for the day. It is about getting yourself on the right wavelength. Embracing a good vibration frequency. Open yourself up to receive positive energy and deflect the negative vibes that will inevitably come your way, whether it is from life circumstances or other people’s bad vibes.

Be the best you! Embrace the awesomeness that is naturally within you and know that you are blessed and you are the best.

Tuesday, May 21, 2019

Quiet Your Mind

A quiet mind is able to hear intuition over fear. - Unknown

Quieting the mind can be the hardest thing for a person to do, especially if they are used to being on the go. Even when she sits for a few minutes, she is already thinking about all the things she has to do when she gets up, making mental lists and plans. How do we going about quieting the mind?

It is not something that we can hop into if we haven't practiced it. Meditation is the path to that. Even if we start with five minutes at a time, it is a start. We have to teach ourselves to take time for ourselves in the form of not only sitting still but slowing down the ruckus that goes on in our mind. Start with a one-two count of your breathing and focus on your breath. Listen to that. As thoughts come in acknowledge them and then get back to one-two breathing.

Breathing brings clarity. Solitude and stillness brings peace. Peace brings self-confidence. You are worth your peace of mind so that you can go back out and tackle life!

Tuesday, April 2, 2019

Stress Less Tip 13: Back to Basics

 I find that I have to get my life together on a regular basis. In any given moment, I feel like life is out of whack. It can be the slightest thing that throws me off too. I have often written about feeling as though I am going through the motions, not really connecting with my life’s purpose. Sure, I am able to hold down a nice job and maintain friendships and get my kids off to school clean and clothed which are all great but I do not find myself being fulfilled by doing the regular stuff that we should do. If anything, I find there are so many more things that I can do with my life. Who are these organized people that have clean homes, laundry folded, kids that are doing great in school, and full home-cooked meals?

Who are these people that do not find themselves staring at a screen for hours on end just wasting time on foolishness? I want to know their secret because I am failing at life. By the way, I have a flair for the dramatics. I, of course, am not failing at life. Some may say, I am kicking butt. If that were enough for me, I would be satisfied and I honestly do not believe I would be where I am today.

Nevertheless, back to getting my life together. Back to getting myself on track toward fulfilling my life’s purpose, whatever it may be this week. Back to saving the world one step at a time. My suggestion and what I find works for me every time, is getting back to basics. My basics are writing and writing and writing some more. This is my gift. I am not saying I am gifted at it. This is just the thing that I love to do and brings me joy. This is the thing that transports me to a feel-good place because I personally think I rock at it and if no one ever reads my stuff, it will not change the fact that I KNOW I rock at it. Writing is my fountain of youth. It is the place that I can retreat to and get lost in and be perfectly happy there. Ironically, it is where I feel most confident. I say ironically because it can also be the source of soul-crushing doubt (if you are a writer you will understand) because that is the process, a back and forth tug-o-war with YOU ARE SO FREAKING AWESOME and rewrite this crap it sucks. Regardless, this is the place I come to let go and let God and let joy.

What is your happy place? What is your basic? If you do not yet know, then we have to figure it out. Figure it out and use it to help with your stress, self-esteem, and feeling of fulfillment. You have to figure it out so that it may be your anchor when there is nothing else. So that when you are lost, it may be your beacon. I believe we are all given this place where through creative inspiration you fall into a zone and feel the divine because this space is just for you. If you are fortunate enough to know what it is, engage. If you are not, have fun exploring and figuring it out. When you do, remember it is your basic. It is where you can always go back to.

Saturday, March 9, 2019

Stress Less Tip 12: Value Yourself

I am learning to stop trying with people who do not value me the same way I may value them. It is a hard lesson but the blessing is that you also pay closer attention to the ones who are true to you.

Value yourself, value your presence, value your time so that you may not rely on others to do so for you. Move on from those who repeatedly take you for granted. Let them go. Instead, hold on tight to those who share with you, care for you listen to you and come through for you. Let us not take for granted those who remember you and keep you. Know who your true friends are.

Photo by Mahir Uysal

We seek to love and be loved even if we may not admit it to ourselves at times. Love yourself enough to create a nurturing space around you that will foster not only your growth but also your ongoing self-healing.

Friday, February 1, 2019

Stress Less Tip 11: Wake Up

Wake Up!
bites, soothes and reverses
trapped only to be free in the
photo by Artem Sapegin
Hush Kids has this song, Wake Up, that I feel expresses the state we may find ourselves in sometimes without even being aware.

"What have I missed sleepwalking like this. Seems like a high price to pay. All the lights in the screens are they just a disease. Always on, calling my name. I wanna wake up." -Hush Kids, Wake Up

There are times when we are moving through life without really being aware of the things around us. Work and responsibilities and the computer and television or our phones have consumed us to the point that we are not really living but floating through one moment to the next. I do not blame technology at all. I blame myself. I blame my lack of self-awareness and mindful living.

Am I awake? When do I really unplug and enjoy the moment? Carpe diem seems so cliche and because of this we throw it away and take it for granted. Still, I have to remind myself that happiness is in the moment that we create. Moments are important. Moments create lasting memories that we can dip into and refresh our souls.

Life will be painful and wonderful and difficult and rewarding and everything in between and around. Worrying about the unknown, the future, our past actions can lead to unnecessary stress. We can plan for the future while enjoying the present. Being mindful of our feelings and emotions should not be a burden but a release. Acknowledge how we feel, make a plan and accept that all we can do is move forward. Wake up to ourselves and our potential. I try to be appreciative of everything in life and in the moment that is now.

Post inspired by Wake Up by Hush Kids. It is a beautifully melodic song.

Thursday, January 31, 2019

Poem: Panacea

All that's
right in the world
starts with a simple
unfiltered genuine act of

I am not sure what the world would be like without people who are capable of kindness, and I do not really want to imagine it. I am thankful for those with big hearts who are better than myself. Practice acts of kindness regularly and watch your life transform.

Tuesday, January 29, 2019



How many ways can we talk about love
How many paths can one take
Waterfalls, rainbows, the air that we breathe
Colors, moans, and the laughter we need
How many ways can we talk about love
How many paths can we take