Saturday, March 9, 2019

Stress Less Tip 12: Value Yourself

I am learning to stop trying with people who do not value me the same way I may value them. It is a hard lesson but the blessing is that you also pay closer attention to the ones who are true to you.

Value yourself, value your presence, value your time so that you may not rely on others to do so for you. Move on from those who repeatedly take you for granted. Let them go. Instead, hold on tight to those who share with you, care for you listen to you and come through for you. Let us not take for granted those who remember you and keep you. Know who your true friends are.

Photo by Mahir Uysal


We seek to love and be loved even if we may not admit it to ourselves at times. Love yourself enough to create a nurturing space around you that will foster not only your growth but also your ongoing self-healing.



Friday, February 1, 2019

Stress Less Tip 11: Wake Up

Wake Up!
Reality
bites, soothes and reverses
trapped only to be free in the
moment
photo by Artem Sapegin
Hush Kids has this song, Wake Up, that I feel expresses the state we may find ourselves in sometimes without even being aware.

"What have I missed sleepwalking like this. Seems like a high price to pay. All the lights in the screens are they just a disease. Always on, calling my name. I wanna wake up." -Hush Kids, Wake Up

There are times when we are moving through life without really being aware of the things around us. Work and responsibilities and the computer and television or our phones have consumed us to the point that we are not really living but floating through one moment to the next. I do not blame technology at all. I blame myself. I blame my lack of self-awareness and mindful living.

Am I awake? When do I really unplug and enjoy the moment? Carpe diem seems so cliche and because of this we throw it away and take it for granted. Still, I have to remind myself that happiness is in the moment that we create. Moments are important. Moments create lasting memories that we can dip into and refresh our souls.

Life will be painful and wonderful and difficult and rewarding and everything in between and around. Worrying about the unknown, the future, our past actions can lead to unnecessary stress. We can plan for the future while enjoying the present. Being mindful of our feelings and emotions should not be a burden but a release. Acknowledge how we feel, make a plan and accept that all we can do is move forward. Wake up to ourselves and our potential. I try to be appreciative of everything in life and in the moment that is now.

Post inspired by Wake Up by Hush Kids. It is a beautifully melodic song.

Thursday, January 31, 2019

Poem: Panacea


Panacea
All that's
right in the world
starts with a simple
unfiltered genuine act of
kindness

I am not sure what the world would be like without people who are capable of kindness, and I do not really want to imagine it. I am thankful for those with big hearts who are better than myself. Practice acts of kindness regularly and watch your life transform.

Tuesday, January 29, 2019

Pathways

Pathways

How many ways can we talk about love
How many paths can one take
Waterfalls, rainbows, the air that we breathe
Colors, moans, and the laughter we need
How many ways can we talk about love
How many paths can we take

Sunday, January 27, 2019

Janelle Monae is Screwed.

Janelle Monae is Screwed.
Her new single is fun yet sends a strong, if not on the cusp of controversal for some, message. She has never shied away from political messages and speaking her mind. Screwed is not different.

I enjoy the song because it has a fun and whimsical side to it while being in your face at the same time. She is one person that is not ashamed to to take a stand for what she believes in. Whether you agree with her social/political commentary, her music is one to be reckoned with.


Wednesday, January 23, 2019

Never Give Up: John Wick 3 Trailer

John Wick 3 trailer dropped and if there is anything at all that we have learned from watching the first two installments is 1. don't mess with someone who does not want to be bothered and 2. don't ever give up on yourself.

The trailer for John Wick 3, starring Keanu Reeves, Halle Berry, Laurence Fishburne, and Ian McShane, is just as unbelievable as would be expected. It follows John after he has been excommunicated and has a 14-million bounty on his head, which means the best of the best assassins will be after him.  In my mind, there is no way that John is going to survive this. I am thinking he will definitely die in the end. Regardless of what appears to be insurmountable odds, John is still fighting.

I was already hyped to see this movie but I am even more excited with Halle Berry's presence. I am always rooting for her.

Check out the trailer:

Wednesday, January 16, 2019

Smile Unexpectedly

The hardest thing you can do is smile when you are ill, in pain, or depressed. But this no-cost remedy is a necessary first half-step if you are to start on the road to recovery. - Allen Klein

Painted satelite 😊taken by Denise Augustus

An unexpected smile is a gift for the mind and soul. Research has shown that smiling (whether forced or genuine) has many beneficial effects on our bodies. Smiling can boost your mood, immune system and help relieve stress. Smiling cost nothing at all and is so good for us. I am always amazed how people can smile and laugh even at the toughest times in their lives.

I remember being in the hospital, feeling like crap because I was in pain and a good friend would come to visit and make me smile or laugh even when it hurt to do so. I would say, "Please, don't make me laugh. It hurts," all while giggling and appreciating this momentary relief. What little do we know is that it is not momentary. The effects of that visit and the smiling and humor go a long way to assist in making us feel better.

Do yourself a favor and smile even when you do not want to. Feeling stressed or anxious? Smile. Feel like crying? Cry and smile through it. Focus on the smile and then think about something or someone or a time that brings a smile to your face. Smile for no reason at all and watch as life changes little by little, smile by smile.

Wednesday, January 9, 2019

Stress Less Tip 10: Be Comfortable with Silence

 You don't always have to say something. - Sammy Davis Jr.

Silence can be uncomfortable for some people. I find to be comfortable with silence is to be comfortable with yourself. There are those that use silence as a tool for negativity, i.e the "silent treatment." In order to foster health and good energy, silence should not be used to get back at someone, ignore someone, or make someone feel bad. We want you to learn how to be comfortable with silence for peace.

Meditation is a wonderful way to use silence to one's benefit. Meditation is not an easy practice especially if a person is not accustomed to being silent with themselves. Some people think that meditation is a state in which our mind is blank but that is not the case. Meditation is to be mindful of our thoughts, emotions, body and mental experiences. Let the thoughts come and go, explore them, and have an anchor thought or word (mantra) that helps to refocus your thoughts when they start to go to astray. You may need to have an already established a mantra or a focus word that will bring you back from far wandering thoughts. You may also need to start slow with a 5-minute session and then grow from there.


Silence can also be used to avoid conflict. Sometimes we may have an initial instinct to reply to comments that stir us emotionally. Our initial reaction may not always be the most well thought out. There are times when it is okay to take a moment of silence that will allow us to reflect on our response. Silence can also be used to avoid conflict especially when we already know we have a tendency to say the wrong things.

Lastly, celebrate silence in your life. You do not have to feel the need to always break it. You do not have to fear it. Be comfortable with it. Know when to break the silence and share your voice. Remember that knowing when to speak up is just as important as knowing when not to.


Monday, January 7, 2019

What Men Want Trailer

What Ment Want will make its way to theaters on Friday, February 8th, and stars Taraji P. Henson, Wendi McLendon-Covey, Aldis Hodge, Erykah Badu, and Max Greenfield.

The trailer looks cute and fun. The cast ensemble should be a fun mix.

Wednesday, January 2, 2019

Aquaman Movie Review

Aquaman starring Jason Momoa, Nicole Kidman, and Yahya Abdul-Mateen II reigns supreme for the second weekend in a row at the box office easily beating out Mary Poppins Returns, Bumblebee, and Spiderman: Into the Spiderverse. I cannot say that it is not a deserved victory. If you have not watched this movie yet and maybe was a bit skeptical like me, go ahead and take the time to check it out.

Full disclosure, I am a science fiction, fantasy, supernatural, superhero, action and everything in between movie-loving geek so I may be a tad biased. With that being said, I was extremely leery of this latest DC effort, especially after Justice League (which I did not hate but was hoping for better). I got what I was looking for with Aquaman. The pacing of the story was just right. The action sequences enjoyable without getting boring or drawn out. The introduction and how they provided background information was engaging. Comedic timing, for the most part, was well done without being too corny and over the top.

This was an inconspicuous feel-good movie in that it was nicely wrapped up in action and intrigue, and I absolutely love feel-good movies. There were so many times in which I found myself rooting for the success of the unlikely hero. The film was not without faults. The young-adult version of Aquaman definitely could have benefited from some more acting classes and of course there were some predictable aspects; however, the movie was so enjoyable that I could overlook those.

The film is worth the watch in the theater.

SPOILERS BELOW

Jason Momoa as Aquaman was well suited and just too darn good looking for words. I was already looking forward to him after Justice Leauge anyway. Honestly, he was one of the bright spots in that film and I was curious to see how much of that spark his character would remain in his own film. Fortunately, he retained all of it. I was a little over his self-deprecating attitude about halfway through the movie but I understand why it was necessary. Him overcoming his lack of confidence was a triumph not only for himself but for everyone who sometimes believes that they are just not good enough. Sometimes we have to push past those negative emotions and work through things anyway because it is the right thing to do and life is worth the effort.

Nicole Kidman as Atlanna was pretty badass. It has been a while since I have seen her in a film so it was refreshing to see her in this one with a touch of vulnerability but also a fierceness that all mothers who want to protect their children have within them. She is a strong actress and I enjoyed seeing her on screen. Because she is such a big name, I actually did believe that she was gone. They wrote her storyline well.

Patrick Wilson as King Orm gave a surprisingly appropriate performance. I have always enjoyed him in his previous work but he has been an under-the-radar actor. I am happy to see him grab a little bit of the spotlight in this film. His character was played perfectly in that he was attempting to be this strong person but ultimately was a punk deep down inside. This was apparent in his God complex attitude. He was almost the villain you felt sorry for if he would only stop being evil for 2 minutes.

Yahya Abdul-Mateen II as Manta gave a commendable performance. There were a couple of times when I felt his acting was over the top but for the most part enjoyed having him on screen. I wish there was more of him but they set it up well for the sequel. Now that he partnered up with the crazy scientist guy, he will hopefully make a formidable villain.