Wednesday, August 23, 2017


When the 
inkling ruffles 
the wanderings of your 
soul respond to the calling with 
I will
-Wanda M. Toby

Follow your Intuition

When the
inkling ruffles
the wanderings of your
soul respond to the calling with
I will

Follow your intuition to contact someone. You never know when you could be the answer to someone else's problem. This is so true. In this case, kindness can go a long way. I see so many things in social media and the news that are sometimes disheartening because it is mainly a showcase of people who are not being kind to one another. In the news they highlight all the negative that we do against each other. In the comment section of practically any social media past, we get yet another showcase of how mean can we be to each other.

Where is kindness and empathy? I always talk about the importance of mindful living especially when it comes to aiding in stress relief, but know that being mindful of our reactions to others will help curtail some of the negativity that we always see. Like Carol Adrienne states, you never know. You never know what someone is going through or what your kind gesture may mean to them. Be mindful of when someone randomly come across your mind or you get a low voice telling you to reach out to someone. Take a moment to call them or even shoot them a text letting them know that you are thinking about them. You never know what that gesture may mean to them.  Kindness does not cost a thing. Spread more of it. We need it.

Never Stress over what you can't Control

There are times when it seems as if stress comes out of nowhere. However, it may seem or even feel, stress does not come of out no where. Stress response or reaction usually starts with a trigger. Something has happened to throw us off balance and now our bodies are activated to get things back under control. 

Where we can have an impact on how that stress in activated in our life, is by assessing and being aware. What was the trigger? Why are we having this reaction and how can we change the course towards a positive end result. One thing that we should not do regardless of the trigger is worry. Worry only leads to more stress and most of the times it comes without hopes for a solution. Worry particularly can get over activated if you are stressing about something you have absolutely no control over. Never stress over what you can't control. Instead, think of how to solve the problem, brainstorm and engage in team work, if there is a team. What ever it is, know that time will move you on and/or change the circumstances, and you may have something entirely different and new to stress out about. It all starts with the mind and how you think about a situation.

Wednesday, August 9, 2017

Stress Relief Tip: Create Your Future

Create your future

There are few things more stressful than uncertainty. At least one other thing is a lack of control over one's own life. These things disrupt our mental homeostasis, increasing that off-balance feeling. Our body's main physiological goal is to stay balanced in that place where everything feels right. When we are out of balance we will find ways to cope with those feelings and regain that level of equilibrium that our nature desires. The idea is to cope with the imbalance via healthy activities that help instead of resort to things like drug, alcohol, or destructive behaviors.

Taking control of your destiny before things get out of control is one way to help. This is not to say that every aspect in one's life is in order or the way you would like it to be. Instead, it is about taking control of your life back. You can do this by taking a step back and looking at things in your life objectively. Take the time to assess and decide which aspects of your life you would like to change. Accept that the identified areas are not where you would like them to be and decide to change them.

This process of self-reflection alone can bring a level of calmness because now in your mind you are working towards a solution. Once you start researching and learning what it takes to change things, you can move into goal setting and eventually creating a plan of action that includes small measurable steps that contribute to your sense of accomplishment. This is not where we allow ourselves to get overwhelmed with the glorious prospect of the future. Instead focus on the present and what you have to do. This is taking control in the creation of your future. This small step can lead to stress relief because you are deciding to be the master of your own destiny instead of simply reacting to situations that get thrown your way.

Tuesday, August 8, 2017

Stressless Tip: Engage your gift

Happy Feet
Some days
I'm not walking
in or towards purpose
with love and peace, I'm just happy
to walk

I am big on walking in your purpose or at least working your way towards it. We all have special talents and gifts that once we unlock and realize what they are, we can flourish. Actively engaging and practicing our gifts is like tapping into an infinite well of energy which can lead us to joy and peace. This space is where we can thrive. Even if we are not making a living at it, at the very least we can enjoy the benefits of exercising our gifts and benefiting from  the stress relief it can bring to our lives.

Tuesday, July 11, 2017

Spider-Man Homecoming Review

My latest  podcast focuses on you and having a vision for yourself and going for it. Also includes a quick review of the newest Spider-Man installment from Marvel, Spider-Man: Homecoming. It enjoyed it and go see it :).

Please feel free to share if you enjoyed or found any part of it helpful.

Thursday, July 6, 2017

A Pencil and a Dream

A #2 pencil and a dream can take you anywhere. -Joyce Meyer

I have a few post on the importance of having dreams and goals to our well being and stress levels. This is where we can generate purpose for ourselves and give meaning to our lives in which we can gain a sense of accomplishment. Dreaming and imagining a better life is just what is needed sometimes.

I picture life without the exercise of the imagination as a dull and boring place. Dreaming of possibilities is the ultimate use of our ability to create. Dipping into our imagination for a moment helps to take us away from the daily things of life that may stress us out. Linking your dream to an actionable goal would be even better.

I completely appreciate the quote because it goes beyond just dreaming up some crazy far away thing that we will never attain. I appreciate it not only because I am a writer and I can transport myself anywhere with my thoughts and #2 pencil or word processor or computer but also because putting dreams down on paper make it real. In creative writing you create a place, situation to share with others. In business making a plan and setting goals will help us move the dream from the fictional land of our minds to making it a reality. When you write it down, you make it real.

Naturally, writing it down in not enough because you have to commit to yourself and your dream. You have to commit to taking action steps. You have to commit to making it happen. Do not overwhelm yourself. Start small. But start. Start dreaming, start imagining, start writing. Start.

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Wednesday, June 28, 2017

Fifth Harmony is Down

Fifth Harmony's holding you Down. I have loved this group ever since X-Factor days. I was sorry to see them go down to four instead of five but I am loving this new single nevertheless.

False Liberty

False Liberty
Feels fleeting and
fake when the demands of
society squeeze you into
a box

Tuesday, June 13, 2017

Stress Less Tip: Put Yourself in Time Out

Stress Less Tip 3: Put yourself in Time Out
Time Out
lately has moved
into your life, parked there
fight, stop and take a breath for a
-Wanda M. Toby
Give yourself a time out. That's right. If you are a parent, you may be used to giving your child a time out and it has some negative emotions attached to it. Let us flip it. Give yourself a time out. We give children time out usually during a chaotic time. Maybe they just got busted in the act of doing something naughty. Whatever the cause or the reason, timeout usually comes after something out of the ordinary happens. You may not have done anything naughty but your life might be a little hectic. Maybe you have just gotten home from work and need to fix dinner or do homework with the kids or need to run to the next event and you feel pressed for time. Your blood pressure is most likely climbing up and you do not even notice. Stop.

Stop and find a spot and pause. It does not even matter if it is quiet as long as you still your mind. Give yourself some time, start with 1-5 minutes. Close your eyes and take a few deep breath, inhale, exhale. Think about the ones you love, what they do to make you smile. Tell yourself you are awesome and you can do this. Think about how fortunate you are to be able to be. Take one to five minutes, then get up, shake it off, and get a move on. That little activity can help to balance you out and allow you to take your next step with new purpose and maybe a little bit more mental energy.