Single & Satisfied Part Two
Now that we know that all singles have a common duty but don’t have all things in common, let’s look at another way I have found to build my success in being single and satisfied.
You must accept yourself.
Seems simple at first; however, this is what is tripping most singles up. Most of us haven’t determined who we are spiritually, mentally and/or physically. Spiritually we have to understand that we are not perfectly good. We are designed, however, to aspire to perfection in love.
Love. A small word with so much power. Christ speaks of love as one of the greatest things that you could do of him, others and of yourself (Deuteronomy 6:5; Leviticus 19:18). However, we just can’t seem to apply this to ourselves most of the time. It is almost as if it is a disease to love ourselves. Through reading of the word and the fellowship with others who are living his word (and you don’t have to second guess who they are – it will show in all they do and say), you will start to understand where you are spiritually and, in turn, realize and accept who you are– a child of God. Then you just have to continue to work on it. You have to continue to pray that Christ will keep you in his perfect will. That spiritually you will – not can - be fulfilled. It won’t come overnight - trust me I know - but when it does, you will never be the same.
Mentally you must understand that we all are given talents that God wants us to use for the uplifting of his kingdom. With that being said, stop tripping on you’re not being where Sister Such-and-Such is in her life. Determine what you have to offer and be the best at that. If God wanted us all to be the same then that is how he would have designed us. Once you understand your role and are prayerfully led to your gifts of the spirit, your mind will not be encumbered with things that are unnecessary but of thing that are needful for your salvation (read about the sisters Mary & Martha; Luke 10:39 -42).
When you have fed your spirit and your mind is clear you must accept where you are physically. This is key. Oftentimes, how we think of ourselves physically can be so destructive that it hinders you spiritually and mentally. You become so obsessed with your physical appearance that you truly start to believe it is who you are. This is understandable as the world has bombarded us with so many unrealistic images of what is physical beauty. However, your beauty is dictated by what you are feeding yourself spiritually. If you trust Christ and follow his Word you will see the changes.
Accepting yourself isn’t easy. It takes hard work and commitment. Hey, I know this first hand. Once I really started living the way Christ wants me to live the pounds started dropping. Not because I decided to be a world class fitness guru (though I do hit the road walking and not the couch) but because I have found the key to happiness. Where I used to be plagued by thoughts of “When is my husband coming?” or “Is this the job I want to be doing for the rest of my life?” or “Is this all there is to my life?” all while sitting in front of the TV eating a snack or two or three. Now, I am active doing the things of Christ. Reading his word and constantly trying to put his concepts into everyday practice. There isn’t a bon-bon, potato chip, cookie, pizza, cake, fried chicken, pork chop, chitterling, ox-tails, etc. alive that can make you feel like Christ can. He is the best diet pill you will ever take.
--------------------------------------------------------About the Author
Stephanie Seawright is a very good friend of mine, and I thank her for this submission. She is a very happily single, professional woman striving daily to live as God would have her. She and I constantly laugh about the ups and downs we go through in trying to get it right.
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