The Difficult Things
All the things. There are just so many that we juggle on a regular basis. To be fair most of them are on cruise control. Our brain does most of the heavy lifting behind the scenes and consciously we are left with maneuvering the more complicated and thought-provoking aspects of our lives. Sometimes, we let our thoughts get carried away, get distracted, and lose focus on what matters and how we are moving through life. But for the most part, our autopilot brain allows us to position ourselves so we can actually live and enjoy life.
|All things are difficult before they are easy. -Thomas Fuller|
Why is it that, in this current age, it seems, most of us are not enjoying life? Recently, I have taken a focus on the simple things that we take for granted, like being present for each other. Another thing we seem to take for granted is our freedom to be. It seems that we pigeonhole ourselves into fulfilling expectations that do not fulfill us or our inner being. It seems that we get bogged down with all the things. And all the things are making life difficult when it does not have to be.
My daughter started a new job and she was so nervous about it at first because she did not know what she was doing and she does not like knowing. She does not care for that feeling of discomfort because she appears incapable. In truth, she was never incapable, she just lacked the know-how. Once she was trained and practiced, she was no longer nervous or uncomfortable because she knew what to do, when to do it, and what was next. Similarly, I went through the same thing when I first started nursing school, then subsequently when I got my first nursing job, then when I went on to be a charge nurse and on and on and on.
It was ALL hard at first. Even when it was easy, it was uncomfortable until I realized it was easy. So my challenge to you is the accept this and go easy on yourself when you are in the process of learning and growing. Remember that life is an ongoing, ever-learning journey. We do not know what we do not know and those things will be uncomfortable until we learn to navigate them.
This is with all things such as learning a new job, hobby, situation, or growing through emotional turmoil. We are designed to process and go through situations so that we may adjust to them, learn and grow from them. If we fight or avoid the process then we will forever be stuck.
All things are difficult before they are easy.
We are capable of getting to the easy. We owe it to ourselves and the only way to do that is to accept that we are going to feel a little uneasy for a time. It’s okay.
We got this.