Banish Your Insecurities
|It's insecurity that is always chasing you and |
standing in the way of your dreams. -Vin Diesel
Do not let your personal insecurities build roadblocks and obstacles that you are not even aware of. I maintain that a healthy dose of self-confidence is necessary to move through this world. There will always be something or someone that will stand against you. The last thing we want is to have to battle our own self. It is natural to have a little hesitation when embarking on a new task or adventure. This little bit of anxiety or nervousness is just what we need to propel us forward. This is the difference between healthy stress and stress that immobilizes us. That is why a healthy dose of a strong sense of self is important.
Unfortunately, it seems that when women, especially women of color, celebrate themselves in a positive manner it gets marginalized as opposed to when we exploit ourselves sexually. We all know that sex sells and this is the appeal. Regardless, I believe there is a space for us to bolster our self-confidence amongst each other. There is a space in which we can uplift one another. There is that good girlfriend space that we can activate. Believe it or not, women can be there for one another contrary to how the mainstream likes pitting us against each other.
There are times when I am not feeling so good about myself or my direction in life. There are times when I need some of that good girlfriend support. I am fortunate that I have plenty of girlfriends that I love and trust to put things into perspective for me. These girlfriends will laugh with me, cry with me, curse with me and pick me up when I am down. They give me perspective when those negative self-doubting thoughts seep into my mind. Insecurities have a way of lingering, festering, and growing. Sometimes those feeling latch on to things we have not dealt with. Know that we have to find a way to address the source but in the meantime, we have to get through the day, week, and not get left behind, stuck in our pain. We are all doing the best that we can with what we have to work with. Knowing that you are worth the effort and you are loved and people care for you, will get you through