Webster defines being single as follows; being alone, being the only one, having only one feature or part, solitary, separate, lone, unmarried. Funny how unmarried is the only positive word – and yes it is positive – in this definition. If you leave it up to Webster, it is no wonder that most singles feel depressed or lonely at least ninety percent of the time. Thinking like this causes you to be less than what Christ has called you to be. We must understand that unmarried is the only thing that speaks to single Christians.
At the now tender age of 38, I can honestly say I am truly satisfied with being single. Please don’t mistake me; I do want to be married one day. But if that is not what Christ has for me, I won’t spend the rest of my life in misery--been there, done that and I have lost a lot of valuable time on it. I just sat down one day and took inventory of myself and frankly I didn’t like what I saw. So I worked on it and came up with four things, which will be discussed in a three part series, that have aided in my single and satisfied success. Try them; you will be amazed!
All singles have a common duty, but all don't have things in common.
Realize that all singles have a common duty, but all don’t all have things in common. This was eye opening! Acts 2:44 reads “Now all who believed were together, and had all things in common”. We as singles in Christ have the common duty to serve Christ in all we do. Christ has given us this gift of being single so that we can honor him at all times and in all things we do. Where we go astray is thinking this means that every thing we do and who we do it with must be the same. I find that to be incorrect and sometimes harmful to the body of Christ.
For example: In our singles ministry we have several single women with children. Oftentimes they want to meet and discuss issues that pertain to the issues of raising their children. Other singles however, feel left out because they see them at the restaurant and they weren’t invited. Well there is no place for you in that arena at that particular time. The mothers need to be able to encourage and minister to each other from a reference point that you simply DO NOT have. You don’t have this in common. However, what you do have in common is the ability to keep these mothers and their families in prayer (I John 5: 14 – 15).
As we strive for spiritual perfection we have to understand that we are all different beings with distinct personalities, passions, and abilities. The bible teaches that Christ equips and gifts us in various ways for the work of ministry. It is our common duty to use these gifts for Christ. We just each may do it differently and that’s okay.
--------------------------------------------------------About the author
Stephanie Seawright is a very good friend of mine, and I thank her for this submission. She is a very happily single, professional woman striving daily to live as God would have her. She and I constantly laugh about the ups and downs we go through in trying to get it right.
Please, keep and eye out for parts two and three. Don't forget to leave a comment whether you agree or disagree!